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Sex ≠ Lust !

There is a raging battle between sex and lust. Only few are fighting in favour of sex. Join me as I share the little I have learnt on lust – sex’s greatest enemy.Look at the world around us – our culture – and I think you’ll agree with the above, even if you’re not a Christian, even if you don’t agree with all of the convictions that I have. I don’t think there’s a need for any argument that we live in an age or time that is drenched in lust. Lust literally drives our economy.  It controls all that goes on around us. It’s amazing how the advert for toothpaste already passes on the message of Lust. Then, we have the internet; you can access whatever at your own freewill without anyone knowing what you are looking at. We have totally justified “sex outside marriage”; we have removed all restrictions.

I mean, there were times in the past that there were restrictions placed on people because of what was acceptable at that time. Some things were unacceptable, you couldn’t do certain things. People were cautious because they didn’t want to spoil their reputation and didn’t want to be ‘that kind of boy or girl.’ All those things have been totally swept away. We have thrown all caution to the wind, nothing is off limits. We can get endless amount of sexual gratification. Truth is, we’ve never had so much access to sexual stimulation and we’ve never been so miserable. What intrigues me the most is that secular people have begun to realize that something’s wrong with the way things are been done, even though they don’t believe in God’s word, even though they won’t believe that sex outside marriage is wrong or agree with any of the dictums that Christians will agree with; they are looking at the way relationships are being handled and they are saying, “something’s wrong with the way we are doing things.”

We have gorged ourselves on all kinds of sexual images, pornography and the likes. We have given ourselves what we wanted, we have freed ourselves, we have used our sexuality how we pleased because “it’s my body, I’ll use it however I want” we’ve bought into this lie.  And the end result is not more pleasure, but less pleasure. It’s led to loneliness. Instead of making sex more exciting, it’s led to dissatisfaction and disillusionment.

Sexual desire is a natural thing but something has gone horribly wrong, our desires are enflamed and though we keep feeding ourselves more and more whether that’s through pornography, sexual immorality, multiple relationships or one hook up after another, we’re less and less satisfied.

The bible refers to all I’ve stated above as LUST. Lust is craving sexually what God has put off limits.  So, God says, “no,” to something but there’s a desire for that thing within us. Now, I know that everyone struggles with lust differently. There are some people that have never gone close to pornography but the thoughts and desires that are in their hearts; the things they give their imaginations to are lustful. Lust can take the form of sex outside marriage, adultery, homosexuality, lesbianism, masturbation, thoughts and imaginations but it’s all about craving what God has said is off limits. Lust has hijacked sex, it has taken something so beautiful and ridiculed it, and it has rubbed it in the dirt.

Eph 4 18 – 19, “They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity with a continual lust for more.”

We have given ourselves to all kinds of impurity, you name it and we’ve got it. Our generation is filled with a continual lust for more. We’ve given so much to ourselves but we’re still empty. We’ve lost even the ability to feel ashamed and embarrassed. Take a look at the music industry today, it’s not a song yet, if there are no ‘strippers’ and ‘belly dancers’. It’s as though they have this innate awareness that if they want to keep people’s eyes on them, they have to do something more sensual, something more perverse. Lust just keeps taking us farther and farther along. I just can’t help thinking the kind of things my kids and yours will be exposed to when they just walk past a shopping mall or turn on the television set. See, when you give yourself over to lust, you grow insensitive.

We are like this because we have rejected, resisted and scorned God, we have hardened our hearts, and we have not liked the idea of somebody else telling us how to live our lives. It’s like a professional guitarist who has calluses on his hand, he’s accustomed to playing the guitar. He’s used to the pain the strings of the guitar inflicts on his fingers. That’s how we have become; that’s what we’ve done to our relationship with God, We’ve built up calluses in our hearts so that His Word comes to us and His spirit speaks to our hearts and we don’t even feel it. We are used to the guilt, the shame and embarrassment that we see no big deal in it anymore. Something about the TRUTH is, it doesn’t need anyone to be the truth, and it’s the truth on its own. But we need this truth to transform us.

I’ll end with this. Until we know the God who made us and created us as sexual creatures, we will make a mess of our sexuality. We will be ruled by lust and that will lead to perversion.

There’s a concluding part to this article, before then, make up your minds to look lust in the face and kick it in the ass. Make up your mind to battle against lust.

Love, always.

Debby Thatcher
@debbythatcher

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  • Beautiful. Amazing. Blessed.

    This is such a lovely piece. Simple and full of many potent truths.

    Oh! I’m so blessed, in fact I’m reading this again !!

  • Enjoyed the second reading just as much as the first.

    God bless you Debby Thatcher !!

  • Falokun Martins

    “…they have given themselves over to sensuality (carnality) so as to indulge in every kind of impurity (fornication, adultery, homosexuality, lesbianism, gay, masturbation and bestiality) with a continual lust for more (obsession borne from the spiritual demons).” The world needs to read this piece. Keep it up Debby!

  • Royston Timothy

    It is excellent.God bless you.

  • eniolaBharbs

    So true,hits a mark with me. Gotta spread this word!

  • Debbie

    A very big thank you to everyone that read and commented on this article. I feel humbled. No doubt, we’re gonna change the world together. God’s blessings 🙂

  • Mercy

    I personally love this piece!
    Bless you, Debbie!

  • keshi

    Wow wow wow! I’m speechless. GOD bless you Debbie!!!

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