I am at that age where I must have a reason for everything I’m doing. No more trial and errors.
Recently, my elder brother invited me to come join him in Egypt for a one-week visit. He was going there for a training. I had decided I would join him there and enjoy the pleasure of Hilton Rameses. I gradually started the process of obtaining the visa, and made enquiries regarding the procedure. I had to provide documents to the visa office which included a letter from my university showing I was a PhD aspirant.
To obtain the letter I had to fill a form indicating the reason for travel and have the form signed by my supervisor. The lady at the Dean’s office then asked me a question that made be think upon the trip.
“What is the reason for your travel?” She asked
“To tour Egypt,” I answered in Russian.
“And you’re travelling as a tourist while the session is still on?” she enquired further.
At that point I had to stop and think. I got the documents together, put them in my bag and told her I’ll return much later. I still haven’t gone back yet. And this was me who had concluded plans to secure my tickets to Egypt.
My brother was going for a training, but what was I going to Egypt to do?
Emmanuel Adebayor, once talking about his family issues wrote,
“My sister Lucia Adebayor keeps telling people that my dad told me to bring her to Europe. But what would be the purpose [of bringing] her to Europe ? Everyone is here for a reason.”
Everyone is here for a reason. That struck a cord in my nerves. Whatever it is you are doing, understand what the reason is.
Hurdles help us understand this. When time to make the big decision comes, and you are about to take it to the next level, be it a relationship, a business idea, the hurdles involved will make you question your purpose. If you know your purpose it will fortify it, but if you don’t know why you were getting involved in the first place, you will find that the motivation to continue will be insufficient. Purpose fuels motivation. You can’t be motivated just like that. A clear knowledge of the reason why you started it will keep you in the field of action.
If it were easy, you’d make decisions without thinking. But if it will cost you something, then by all means you’ll reconsider and be sure you are doing the right thing.
Welcome the rough roads, they help clear your doubts.
May your road be rough, but no matter what, Do Something!